Strange that you should be thinking about virginity, chastity, sexuality Li. Because I have been thinking about it too. Well, to be honest, thinking about it does not quite capture my meaning. I have always considered myself a liberal, and still do. And as always, I think, experiences in life are to be cherished, sexuality, sensuality and sex is something which should be celebrated. I have always felt that being a woman or a man does not really make a big difference in the issue. There has been(and will always continue to have) complaints that men get it a lot easier than women when it comes to "sowing wild oats" but really girls now-a-days are really as much sexually active and liberal as men, only they might not choose to reveal it as blatantly.
I think women and men should not be afraid or ashamed to acknowledge their sexuality which is really a very central part of being. Not that I think calling it an exploration of self and going on sexual rampages are beneficial. It might be enjoyable, but really, I think being able to talk about it and express it is an important part of growing up and self-discovery. I think silence on any issue is unnatural, unhealthy and in fact creates ignorance. I wish people were really more open about desires, sexual or other. And desires gives us clues to who we are, what we cherish. Morality has very little to do with the topic. What one might see as immoral, another might not. Sexuality and its expression should not be equated with immorality, or worse something "dirty". Because when given such a classification, speaking up immediately becomes something bad, immoral and undesired. Whereas not speaking up, not exploring it intellectually, emotionally, spiritually is seen as good, moral, worse "holy". Silence should not be mistaken as a form of abstinence, a form of verbal abstinence which suggest mental purity. I think one big problem for a lot of people is not being able to talk about sex and sexuality in an open and honest manner, especially when it comes to the young. I always regretted the fact that when I was around five in my curiousity, I asked what the mysterious paackage (now I know as condom) was at a supermarket checkout and was met with an awkward lie that it was candies. And I still hate my parents for lying to me, I knew even then at five.
Sex is one of those topics, people prefer to hide behind closed doors and silent walls. The only socially accepted avenue of discussion are really through humor. But that usually does not get very far.
Drawing your line to where you stand on the issue is good, as long as that does not close the door to discussion on the issue with people who might have a different opinons. Because the other problem on the other side of people keeping silent, breeding ignorance is the turning of deaf ears, the hardening of minds and hearts to the extent that even if someone attempts to say something, all the reply he/she gets is the deafening echo of his voice bouncing off rocks, and the ultimate realization that discussion is futile and perhaps it may be better to remain in silence after all.
